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But Vasu, let’s leave aside these practical concerns for a moment and look at this arrangement from a more objective, theoretical level. I hope we can agree on the fact that arranged marriages are a tool in patriarchy and as a feminist, I have a problem with anything that is even vaguely patriarchal. But that does not mean I wish arranged marriages to be abolished. I hope over a period of time, both men and women understand the hidden costs of such patriarchal practices. For example, it really irks me that arranged marriages keep the caste segregation alive. Imagine for a moment, in the USA, if black people were still not allowed to marry white people, do you think we could have had a peaceful country? Do you think the parents of a Brahmin girl would seek a Dalit boy as a groom in an arranged marriage? That does not happen anywhere, because marriages are used to control the self-interests of a community. With the kind of caste and religious intolerance that we have in India, we’d be much better off without using marriage as a tool to restrict resources. These are my two main arguments against arranged marriages.